Wedding Gifts

We know many of you may like to give us a gift to commemorate our nuptials.

If you would like to give us a gift, we have some options below. If it would cause additional stress in your life, or otherwise isn’t something you’d want to do, no worries and we hope you have a great day. Stay safe out there!

Options that take money

• our wedding registry
• donate to charity in our name(s)
  • we like GiveWell’s All Grants Fund, which identifies the opportunities where your dollar can go the furthest in helping people survive and thrive, and The Trevor Project, which focuses on suicide prevention and advocacy for LGBTQ youth
• venmoing us at @bitbisexual and/or @erscarpaf
• handing us cash or a check

Options that take time

• Put something on your pet’s head, take a picture, and send it to us. Bonus points for additional, non-behatted pictures
• Read a book by a queer author! Some we like include
  • Emy’s picks
    • The Priory of the Orange Tree
    • The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo
  • Kiva’s picks
    • Light from Uncommon Stars
    • Some Desperate Glory